I’ve been writing this post for years. These specific words came recently, but only after realizing God had me thinking and writing variations of them for years. It’s a recurring fruit I’m bearing.
In seeking my will, I’m often fighting His. I wrote these words recently about letting go and trusting God. While I’ve surrendered more to God over the last few years, it’s not only about surrender. Fighting His will is about my self-control.
In the past decade, surrender evolved through bubbles while grieving and leaping in faith. Along the way, muddied waters cleared with splashes of His revelations often written about here. But all of it echoes self-control.
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things! ~Galatians 5:22-23
A Recurring Fruit
When a recurring theme pops into our lives in a couple different areas, it’s clearly God nudging us to pay attention. Recently, multiple self-control scenarios surfaced in my life. Personal friends, fellow writers, and family situations led me to contemplate self-control (or often my lack thereof).
For me, the fruit of self-control often means minimizing. I try to do too much, say too much or go too fast and miss the valuable small, slower moments. Surrendering and trusting God leads to moments of joy I don’t want to miss. So I’m following God’s nudge and focusing on self-control and how to find joy in self-control.
In a very unscientific poll of some friends, it seems many of struggle with self-control not only in the obvious ways like eating too much but also in areas of trusting God. Check off any of these that you’ve experienced:
- Not waiting for God’s timing
- Not trusting God enough to fully let go and surrender
- Not fully believing God’s way is better
- Not stopping ourselves from inserting our opinion or directives
Self-control begins with not giving in to temptation. It can be an act of commission or omission and little or big, but nonetheless, these acts resonate lack of self-control.
We gain more Godly control by looking to Jesus.
Self-control shifts what I want what God wants. It’s about who is more important. God or me? What’s more important? Getting my way or shining His? I’ll admit, my first instinct is often about me more than God.
Earlier this year, I learned about living unburdened after reading this verse
So prepare your minds for action and exercise self-control. Put all your hope in the gracious salvation that will come to you when Jesus Christ is revealed to the world. ~ 1 Peter 1:13
My takeaway was self-control is practiced by sinful people like me by putting our hope in Jesus’ saving grace.
The fruit of self-control from the Holy Spirit is just that. From the Holy Spirit. It’s given and produced in our lives when we put our hope in Jesus alone. Not my will, only His. When we look to Jesus and surrender to him, self-control becomes a fruit we bear through the Holy Spirit.
Surrendering, trusting, and seeking Him is helping me learn about self-control. God plants aha moments in our lives as one more example of how His way is so much greater. I can’t wait to see what He’s going to teach us as we focus on self-control.
Yes! It is a decision we make because God is the important One (not us) to submit to those things that will best reflect Him to the world around us. But a decision we will NEVER make unless the Holy Spirit is at the helm…
A great lesson!
Thanks and absolutely Christy, when the Holy Spirit is at the helm, can reflect Him to the world!
What an important distinction, Jill: “The fruit of self-control from the Holy Spirit is just that. From the Holy Spirit.” Thank you for encouragement to keep my eyes on Jesus and surrender to His Spirit. ((Hugs))
Thanks Crystal for your words of encouragement! Let’s all keep our eyes on Jesus!
Wow, Jill, you’ve talked about elements of self-control that I’d never really thought about: letting go of things into God’s hands and surrender, for example. This challenges and encourages me: “When we look to Jesus and surrender to him, self-control becomes a part of us through the Holy Spirit.”
Yes, thanks Betsy. We often think that surrendering to Jesus is a lack of control, but in reality, it sets up the greatest gift of self-control through the gift of the Holy Spirit.